169. Don\\\\\\\\\\\\'t let yesterday use up too much of today. 别留念昨天了,把握好今天吧。(Will Rogers) 170. If you are not brave enough, no one will back you up. 你不勇敢,没人替你坚强。171. If you don\\\\\\\\\\\\'t build your dream, someone will hire you to build theirs. 如果你没有梦想,那么你只能为别人的梦想打工。172. Beauty is all around, if you just open your heart to see. 只要你给自己机会,你会发现你的世界可以很美丽。173. The difference in winning and losing is most often...not quitting. 赢与输的差别通常是--不放弃。(华特·迪士尼) 174. I am ordinary yet unique. 我很平凡,但我独一无二。175. I like people who make me laugh in spite of myself. 我喜欢那些让我笑起来的人,就算是我不想笑的时候。176. Image a new story for your life and start living it. 为你的生命想一个全新剧本,并去倾情出演吧!177. I\\\\\\\\\\\\'d rather be a happy fool than a sad sage. 做个悲伤的智者,不如做个开心的傻子。178. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. 未来属于那些相信梦想之美的人。(埃莉诺·罗斯福) 179. Even if you get no applause, you should accept a curtain call gracefully and appreciate your own efforts. 即使没有人为你鼓掌,也要优雅的谢幕,感谢自己的认真付出。180. Don\\\\\\\\\\\\'t let dream just be your dream. 别让梦想只停留在梦里。181. A day without laughter is a day wasted. 没有笑声的一天是浪费了的一天。(卓别林) 182. Travel and see the world; afterwards, you will be able to put your concerns in perspective. 去旅行吧,见的世面多了,你会发现原来在意的那些结根本算不了什么。183. The key to acquiring proficiency in any task is repetition. 任何事情成功关键都是熟能生巧。《生活大爆炸》 184. You can be happy no matter what. 开心一点吧,管它会怎样。185. A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow. 今天的好计划胜过明天的完美计划。186. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says \\\\\\\\\\\\'I\\\\\\\\\\\\'m possible\\\\\\\\\\\\'! 一切皆有可能!“不可能”的意思是:“不,可能。”(奥黛丽·赫本) 187. Life isn\\\\\\\\\\\\'t fair, but no matter your circumstances, you have to give it your all. 生活是不公平的,不管你的境遇如何,你只能全力以赴。188. No matter how hard it is, just keep going because you only fail when you give up. 无论多么艰难,都要继续前进,因为只有你放弃的那一刻,你才输了。    When Paul Jobs was mustered out of the Coast Guard after World War II, he made a wager with his crewmates. They had arrived in San Francisco, where their ship was decommissioned, and Paul bet that he would find himself a wife within two weeks. He was a taut, tattooed engine mechanic, six feet tall, with a passing resemblance to James Dean. But it wasn’t his looks that got him a date with Clara Hagopian, a sweet-humored daughter of Armenian immigrants. It was the fact that he and his friends had a car, unlike the group she had originally planned to go out with that evening. Ten days later, in March 1946, Paul got engaged to Clara and won his wager. It would turn out to be a happy marriage, one that lasted until death parted them more than forty years later. Paul Reinhold Jobs had been raised on a dairy farm in Germantown, Wisconsin. Even though his father was an alcoholic and sometimes abusive, Paul ended up with a gentle and calm disposition under his leathery exterior. After dropping out of high school, he wandered through the Midwest picking up work as a mechanic until, at age nineteen, he joined the Coast Guard, even though he didn’t know how to swim. He was deployed on the USS General M. C. Meigs and spent much of the war ferrying troops to Italy for General Patton. His talent as a machinist and fireman earned him commendations, but he occasionally found himself in minor trouble and never rose above the rank of seaman. Clara was born in New Jersey, where her parents had landed after fleeing the Turks in Armenia, and they moved to the Mission District of San Francisco when she was a child. She had a secret that she rarely mentioned to anyone: She had been married before, but her husband had been killed in the war. So when she met Paul Jobs on that first date, she was primed to start a new life. Clara, however, loved San Francisco, and in 1952 she convinced her husband to move back there. They got an apartment in the Sunset District facing the Pacific, just south of Golden Gate Park, and he took a job working for a finance company as a “repo man,” picking the locks of cars whose owners hadn’t paid their loans and repossessing them. He also bought, repaired, and sold some of the cars, making a decent enough living in the process. There was, however, something missing in their lives. They wanted children, but Clara had suffered an ectopic pregnancy, in which the fertilized egg was implanted in a fallopian tube rather than the uterus, and she had been unable to have any. So 颗普通的行星,但它在许多方面都是独一无二的。比如,它是太阳系中唯一一颗面积大部分被水覆盖的行星,也是目前所知唯一一颗有生命存在的 Arthur Schieble died in August 1955, after the adoption was finalized. Just after Christmas that year, Joanne and Abdulfattah were married in St. Philip the Apostle Catholic Church in Green Bay. He got his PhD in international politics the next year, and then they had another child, a girl named Mona. After she and Jandali divorced in 1962, Joanne embarked on a dreamy and peripatetic life that her daughter, who grew up to become the acclaimed novelist Mona Simpson, would capture in her book Anywhere but Here. Because Steve’s adoption had been closed, it would be twenty years before they would all find each other. Steve Jobs knew from an early age that he was adopted. “My parents were very open with me about that,” he recalled. He had a vivid memory of sitting on the lawn of his house, when he was six or seven years old, telling the girl who lived across the street. “So does that mean your real parents didn’t want you?” the girl asked. “Lightning bolts went off in my head,” according to Jobs. “I remember running into the house, crying. And my parents said, ‘No, you have to understand.’ They were very serious and looked me straight in the eye. They said, ‘We specifically picked you out.’ Both of my parents said that and repeated it slowly for me. And they put an emphasis on every word in that sentence.” Abandoned. Chosen. Special. Those concepts became part of who Jobs was and how he regarded himself. His closest friends think that the knowledge that he was given up at birth left some scars. “I think his desire for complete control of whatever he makes derives directly from his personality and the fact that he was abandoned at birth,” said one longtime colleague, Del Yocam. “He wants to control his environment, and he sees the product as an extension of himself.” Greg Calhoun, who became close to Jobs right after college, saw another effect. “Steve talked to me a lot about being abandoned and the pain that caused,” he said. “It made him independent. He followed the beat of a different drummer, and that came from being in a different world than he was born into.” Later in life, when he was the same age his biological father had been when he abandoned him, Jobs would father and abandon a child of his own. (He eventually took responsibility for her.) Chrisann Brennan, the mother of that child, said that being put up for adoption left Jobs “full of broken glass,” and it helps to explain some of his behavior. “He who is abandoned is an abandoner,” she said. Andy Hertzfeld, who worked with Jobs at Apple in the early 1980s, is among the few who remained close to both Brennan and Jobs. “The key question about Steve is why he can’t tty good,” he said, “because he knew how to build anything. If we needed a cabinet, he would build it. When he built our fence, he gave me a hammer so I could work with him.” Fifty years later the fence still surrounds the back and side yards of the house in Mountain View. As Jobs showed it off to me, he caressed the stockade panels and recalled a lesson that his father implanted deeply in him. It was important, his father said, to craft the backs of cabinets and fences properly, even though they were hidden. “He loved doing things right. He even cared about the look of the parts you couldn’t see.” His father continued to refurbish and resell used cars, and he festooned the garage with pictures of his favorites. He would point out the detailing of the design to his son: the lines, the vents, the chrome, the trim of the seats. After work each day, he would change into his dungarees and retreat to the garage, often with Steve tagging along. “I figured I could get him nailed down with a little mechanical ability, but he really wasn’t interested in getting his hands dirty,” Paul later recalled. “He never really cared too much about m189. It requires hard work to give off an appearance of effortlessness. 你必须十分努力,才能看起来毫不费力。190. Life is like riding a bicycle.To keep your balance,you must keep moving. 人生就像骑单车,只有不断前进,才能保持平衡。(爱因斯坦) 191. Be thankful for what you have.You\\\\\\\\\\\\'ll end up having more. 拥有一颗感恩的心,最终你会得到更多。192. Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. 美是一种内心的感觉,并反映在你的眼睛里。(索菲亚·罗兰) 193. Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows. 朋友的作用,就是让你快乐加倍,痛苦减半。194. When you long for something sincerely, the whole world will help you. 当你真心渴望某样东西时,整个宇宙都会来帮忙。echanical things.” “I wasn’t that into fixing cars,” Jobs admitted. “But I was eager to hang out with my dad.” Even as he was growing more aware that he had been adopted, he was becoming more attached to his father. One day when he was about eight, he discovered a photograph of his father from his time in the Coast Guard. “He’s in the engine room, and he’s got his shirt off and looks like James Dean. It was one of those Oh wow moments for a kid. Wow, oooh, my parents were actually once very young and really good-looking.” Through cars, his father gave Steve his first exposure to electronics. “My dad did not have a deep understanding of electronics, but he’d encountered it a lot in automobiles and other things he would fix. He showed me the rudiments of electronics, and I got very interested in that.” Even more interesting were the trips to scavenge for parts. “Every weekend, there’d be a junkyard trip. We’d be looking for a generator, a carburetor, all sorts of components.” He remembered watching his father negotiate at the counter. “He was a good bargainer, because he knew better than the guys at the counter what the parts should cost.” This helped fulfill the pledge his parents made when he was adopted. “My college fund came from my dad paying $50 for a Ford Falcon or some other beat-up car that didn’t run, working on it for a few weeks, and selling it for $250—and not telling the IRS.” The Jobses’ house and the others in their neighborhood were built by the real estate developer Joseph Eichler, whose company spawned more than eleven thousand homes in various California subdivisions between 1950 and 1974. Inspired by Frank Lloyd Wright’s vision of simple modern homes for the American “everyman,” Eichler built inexpensive houses that featured floor-to-ceiling glass walls, open floor plans, exposed post-and-beam construction, concrete slab floors, and lots of sliding glass doors. “Eichler did a great thing,” Jobs said on one of our walks around the neighborhood. “His houses were smart and cheap and good. They brought clean design and simple taste to lower-income people. They had awesome little features, like radiant heating in the floors. You put carpet on them, and we had nice toasty floors when we were kids.” Jobs said that his appreciation for Eichler homes instilled in him a passion for making nicely designed products for the mass market. “I love it when you can bring really great design and simple capability to something that doesn’t cost much,” he said as he pointed out the clean elegance of the houses. “It was the original vision for Apple. That’s what we tried to do with the first Mac. That’s what we did with the iPod.” Across the street from the Jobs family lived a man who had become successful as a real estate agent. “He wasn’t that bright,” Jobs recalled, “but he seemed to be making a fortune. So my dad thought, ‘I can do that.’ He worked so hard, I remember. He took these night classes, passed the license test, and got into real estate. Then the bottom fell out of the market.” As a result, the family found itself financially strapped for a year or so while Steve was in elementary school. His mother took a job as a bookkeeper for Varian Associates, a company that made scientific instruments, and they took out a second mortgage. One day his fourth-grade teacher asked him, “What is it you don’t understand about the universe?” Jobs replied, “I don’t understand why all of a sudden my dad is so broke.” He was proud that his father never adopted a servile attitude or slick style that may have made him a better salesman. “You had to suck up to people to sell real estate, and he wasn’t good at that and it wasn’t in his nature. I admired him for that.” Paul Jobs went back to being a mechanic. His father was calm and gentle, traits that his son later praised more than emulated. He was also resolute. Jobs described one exampl What made the neighborhood different from the thousands of other spindly-tree subdivisions across America was that even the ne’er-do-wells tended to be engineers. “When we moved here, thegh-tech and made living here very exciting.” In the wake of the defense industries there arose a booming economy based on technology. Its roots stretched back to 1938, when David Packard and his new wife moved into a house in Palo Alto that had a shed where his friend Bill Hewlett was soon ensconced. The house had a garage—an appendage that would prove both useful and iconic in the valley—in which they tinkered around until they had their first product, an audio oscillator. By the 1950s, Hewlett-Packard was a fast-growing company making technical instruments. Fortunately there was a place nearby for entrepreneurs who had outgrown their garages. In a move that would help transf The most important technology for the region’s growth was, of course, the semiconductor. William Shockley, who had been one of the inventors of the transistor at Bell Labs in New Jersey, moved out to Mountain View and, in 1956, started a company to build transistors using silicon rather than the more expensive germanium that was then commonly used. But Shockley became increasingly erratic and abandoned his silicon transistor project, which led eight of his engineers—most notably Robert Noyce and Gordon Moore—to break away to form Fairchild Semiconductor. That company grew to twelve thousand employees, but it fragmented in 1968, when Noyce lost a power struggle to become CEO. He took Gordon Moore and founded a company that they called Integrated Electronics Corporation, which they soon smartly abbreviated to Intel. Their third employee was Andrew Grove, who later would grow the company by shifting its focus from memory chips to microprocessors. Within a few years there would be more than fifty companies in the area making semiconductors. The exponential growth of this industry was correlated with the phenomenon famously discovered by Moore, who in 1965 drew a graph of the speed of integrated circuits, based on the number of transistors that could be placed on a chip, and showed that it doubled about every two years, a trajectory that could be expected to continue. This was reaffirmed in 1971, when Intel was able to etch a complete central processing unit onto one chip, the Intel 4004, tronic amplifier. “So I raced home, and I told my dad that he was wrong.” “No, it needs an amplifier,” his father assured him. When Steve protested otherwise, his father said he was crazy. “It can’t work without an amplifier. There’s some trick.” “I kept saying no to my dad, telling him he had to see it, and finally he actually walked down with me and saw it. And he said, ‘Well I’ll be a bat out of hell.’” Jobs recalled the incident vividly because it was his first realization that his father did not know everything. Then a more disconcerting discovery began to dawn on him: He was smarter than his parents. He had always admired his father’s competence and savvy. “He was not an educated man, but I had always thought he was pretty damn smart. He didn’t read much, but he could do a lot. Almost everything mechanical, he could figure it out.” Yet the carbon microphone incident, Jobs said, began a jarring process of realizing that he was in fact more clever and quick than his parents. “It was a very big moment that’s burned into my mind. When I realized that I was smarter than my parents, I felt tremendous shame for having thought that. I will never forget that moment.” This discovery, he later told friends, along with the fact that he was adopted, made him feel apart—detached and separate—from both his family and the world. Another layer of awareness occurred soon after. Not only did he discover that he was brighter than his parents, but he discovered that they knew this. Paul and Clara Jobs were loving parents, and they were willing to adapt their lives to suit a son who was very smart—and also willful. They would go to great lengths to accommodate him. And soon Steve discovered this fact as well. “Both my parents got me. They felt a lot of responsibility once they sensed that I was special. They found ways to keep feeding me stuff and putting me in better schools. They were willing to defer to my needs.” So he grew up not only with a sense of having once been abandoned, but also with a sense that he was special. In his own mind, that was more important in the formation of his personality. School Even before Jobs started elementary school, his mother had taught him how to read. This, however, led to some problems once he got to school. “I was kind of bored for the first few year

又有一位14岁的女孩“被杀”了,凶手是女孩的初中同学

女孩叫广濑爽彩,2019年4月升入附近的初中就读。

家旁边有一个小公园,她在那里遇到了一位比她高两年级的学姐A,和学姐的两位男生朋友B、C。


从此,她的生活堪比地狱。

5月,B男突然凌晨4点约爽彩出去,母亲阻拦的时候,爽彩对母亲说:“他们叫了我,就必须要出去。”

(爽彩童年照)

我们无法得知那晚究竟发生了什么。

但短短一个月后,C男就在聊天软件上,威胁爽彩发自慰的视频和照片。

爽彩拒绝了很多次,但还是因为恐惧,把自己的裸照发给了C男。

原以为足够“听话”,就能让对方不再纠缠。没想到,更可怕的事情发生了。

A女先是假装好心安慰爽彩,套她的话。

然后问C男要到了爽彩的裸照,转头就发到了学生群里。

发现了吗?孩子的恶,都是一步一步的,不断试探对方的底线,然后践踏对方的底线。

于是,裸照事件一个月后,爽彩被A女约到了小公园里,周围聚集着很多学生,她们对爽彩说:“你现在就在这里自慰,做给我们看。”


爽彩照做了。她只希望能赶紧结束这一切。

当她哀求欺凌者不要把这些事告诉别人时,欺凌者笑着说:“去死。”

爽彩也照做了,她跨过身旁的围栏,跳进了河里。

霸凌者不断提出过分的要求,被霸凌者丝毫没有反抗的底气。除了忍耐和死亡,似乎没有别的办法。

2019年9月,妈妈帮爽彩办了转学,可此时爽彩已经患上了创伤后应激障碍(PTSD),不敢去学校,只想呆在家里。

一年后,爽彩穿着单薄的衣服出了门,当时当地的气温只有零下17℃,爽彩被活活冻死

直至38天后,冰雪初融,爽彩的尸体才被发现。


又是一场因校园暴力而导致的悲剧。

这样的悲剧,几乎每天都在上演。

云南宣威一名14岁的初中女生,忍受不了同学的暴力殴打残忍虐待后,喝农药自杀身亡。


辽宁一位14岁的少年,被5名同学围殴致死。


暴打只是手段之一,你永远想象不出,为什么孩子懂得那么多侮辱别人的手段?

有人把同学的衣服扒下来拍裸照,发在网络上炫耀;


有人逼迫同学去卫生间吃屎。


很多人呼吁,被校园暴力的时候,一定要离霸凌者远一点。或许被一个人霸凌,孩子可以躲着走。

但如果,孩子被一群人霸凌呢?

校园霸凌之所以存在,不是被霸凌的孩子的错,而是霸凌者的错。

仔细研究霸凌者的家庭背景后,你会发现:

每一个问题孩子背后都有一对问题父母。

每一个问题孩子,都是原生家庭的受害者。

没有天生的坏孩子,只有被养坏的孩子。

01

“ta只是一个孩子”是最毒的教育

校园霸凌一直有一个很奇怪的现象:

被霸凌者唯唯诺诺,不敢声张;霸凌者毫不掩饰,为非作歹。

哪怕告到老师那里,霸凌者也丝毫不惧,甚至背地里打得更狠。

归根结底,问题出在家长身上,因为老师知道了情况,唯一能做的就是告知家长。

如果家长不管,那就没人能管。家长不分黑白地包庇,只会让孩子变本加厉。

前不久,看到一则新闻。

聪聪在学校上厕所,因为说话声音稍微大了点,便被强强拉住教训,要求聪聪跪在地上大喊:“大爷饶命。”

了解到事情的真相后,聪聪妈妈去学校与强强妈妈对峙,要求强强给聪聪道歉。

没想到强强妈妈理直气壮地说:“他才十岁,只是个孩子,和同学玩玩而已。”


不知道这位妈妈在家的时候是怎么跟孩子玩的,怎么没有把孩子玩出重度抑郁症?

更何况,如果你把孩子当“孩子”,那么你的孩子一辈子都长不大。

犹记得去年一则新闻,一位8岁的少年回家时,被17岁男子尾随,拖进地下室暴打两小时,孩子被打得没了人样,血迹甚至飙到了地下室墙面上


男子被依法刑拘,等待审判。

施暴者妈妈终于急了,想私下赔钱了事。

没有得到受害者家庭的回应,她便在小区业主群“哭诉”:
“我希望受害者的家人,能给我的孩子一个机会。”

可是,谁能给那个被打到昏迷的孩子一个机会?

17岁的男人对一个八岁的小孩下狠手,不敢想象他成长的过程中,一共伤害了多少位孩子。

评论区一位网友的话一针见血:“正是这种垃圾家长的不断兜底,才会让罪犯更加的肆无忌惮。”


比霸凌者更可怕的,是为他撑腰的家长。

对他们来说,家长的漠视是一种默许,家长的兜底是一种鼓励。

于是,孩子只会变得越来越坏。

今天让别人下跪,明天就能把别人打到昏迷。

父母不告诉他什么是恶,他就能把别人逼死。

父母和孩子之间的关系,就像一场拔河。
父母松手纵容,孩子就会脱离掌控;
父母握紧绳子,孩子就能规范行为。

每个挺直了身子把别人踩在脚下的孩子,背后一定有一个为他撑腰的父母。

02

被暴力对待的孩子
把暴力植入了本能

但,父母握紧绳子,并不意味着暴力。

见过很多父母,孩子犯了错,不管三七二十一,先把孩子打一顿。

孩子的确会变得更加听话乖巧,那孩子的脾气呢?

早已被他们发泄到更弱小的孩子身上。

心理学上有一个效应叫踢猫效应:你踢了孩子一脚,孩子看到路边的小猫,就会上前踢一脚。

因为人的不满情绪和糟糕心情,一般会沿着等级和强弱组成的社会关系链条依次传递。

对孩子来说,父母是金字塔的顶层,比自己弱小的同学就是金字塔的底层。

他们被父母粗暴地对待过,承受了很强的怒气和怨气,于是他们会将怒气发泄在比自己弱小的孩子身上,以寻求快感。

看过一则令人毛骨悚然的新闻。

某一年级小学生小吕,趁着下课的时候,把铅笔笔芯扎进了同班同学的身体里。

眼睛上好几个血窟窿。


血迹晕成一片。


撩起衣服更是触目惊心,背上满是密密麻麻的小洞。


为了弄清楚霸凌的缘由,老师去小林家家访,但小林将老师堵在门外,表现出了极大的抗拒。

后来,小林的爷爷才向老师透露:小林的父亲经常家暴小林

你以为棍棒底下出孝子,但其实,只能复制出另外一个暴躁的你。

正如《原生家庭:如何修正性格缺陷》中说:“不健康的原生家庭就像高速公路上的连环追尾,其恶劣影响会代代相传。”

看过这样一个家庭。

女孩不肯吃饭,外婆骂骂咧咧地抄起勺子就往女孩嘴里塞;


女孩犯错,妈妈竟然用针扎女儿的手臂!


外婆和妈妈的行为,早已深深根植在女孩的大脑中。

看弟弟不顺眼,她拿起扫把就打弟弟,甚至还会戳弟弟的眼睛!


记者问妈妈,为什么要这么对待女孩?

妈妈不以为意地说:“我小时候也是这么过来的。”

从外婆到妈妈再到女孩,暴力遗传了整整三代人。

习惯了被打的孩子,不懂得表达爱,控制不了恨,最终成为了情绪的奴隶,走上违法犯罪的道路。

他们是施暴者,但也是可怜人。

03

从被欺凌者到欺凌者,都是受害者

上世纪90年代,挪威心理学家丹·奥维斯通过一项调查后发现:

大约有60%的中学时被鉴定为“欺凌者”的男孩,在20多岁时至少有一项刑事罪行,这一比率远远高于非欺凌者。

孩子第一次犯错,也许是年少无知;孩子第二次犯错,问题一定出在父母身上。

一昧的纵容或是暴打,只会把孩子推下更深的悬崖。

小恶不止,终成大恶。

《误杀》中的素察,把别人的眼睛打伤时,妈妈没有要求他给对方道歉,而且责怪对方弄伤了素察的手指。


于是,素察才变本加厉,甚至想去强奸女孩。


1994年,孙小果因强奸入刑,从事公安工作的母亲,却利用职务之便,先将孙小果的年龄从19岁改到17岁,让孙小果因为未成年只判了三年有期徒刑,再申请保外就医,最后孙小果一天监狱也没进。


做了坏事,却没尝到恶果的孩子,自然而然地,以为世界都会围着他转。

短短三年后,他竟又连续强奸了三位少女!

然而,原本被判死刑的孙小果,又在父母上蹿下跳般的打点下,只需坐牢12年。


接下来的故事,我们都知道了。

2010年,孙小果刑满释放,摇身一变成为黑社会老大。

2019年,国家扫黑除恶运动下,孙小果被执行死刑,母亲被判刑20年,继父被判刑19年。


世界上没有天生的问题孩子。
别让自己的问题成为了孩子错误的起点。

你在教育孩子上偷的懒,总有一天会“回报”在你身上。

事后,用铅笔欺负同学的小林的父亲作出了回应:

首先,他给受害者家长和孩子道了歉。
接着,他反思了自己的教育方式,承诺以后会选择一种合适恰当的方式教育孩子。


养育孩子需要不断打怪升级。

犯点小错没关系,教孩子改正错误,反思自己的教育方法就行。

先成为好父母,再教育好孩子

孩子是父母的镜子,父母什么样子,孩子就是什么样子。

所以,想养出一个好孩子,必须自己先成为好父母。

多维度教育孩子,多维度评价孩子

成绩的确很重要,但成绩组成不了孩子的人生。

不要为了成绩家暴孩子,也不要因为孩子成绩好就无底线纵容。

家教好,人品好,才是孩子一生的底气。

无条件接纳孩子情绪,有条件规范孩子行为

如果父母不想让孩子成为“双面人”,家里乖巧,家外蛮横,就一定要学会无条件爱孩子。

无条件的爱,不等于溺爱。而是接纳孩子的坏情绪,帮助孩子冷静,然后再规范孩子的行为。

04


最后,想对所有孩子说,暴力是懦夫用来逃避现实的手段。温和待人,才是一个人走向成功的开始。

我们的原生家庭或多或少都有点问题,但坚强的孩子,往往能把一手烂牌打成王炸。

更何况,我们的父母,也正在努力变好,不是吗?

溺爱孩子很容易,暴打孩子也很容易。两者甚至不需要思考,只要付诸于力气。

但养育孩子,从不是一件简单的事情。

愿所有父母都能让孩子明白,自己种下的苦果,终有一天要流着泪吃下。

正如郭德纲对郭麒麟的赠语所说:

芸芸众生富贵贫寒,不是谁都可以傲视乾坤。
其中有命有运,要知因果懂善恶。

我儿且记,但行好事,莫问前程!

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