李馬克把船級的傘給撕爛了[允悲]
船級看不懂英文我來稍微聽一下，可能有點錯，但重點在後半句[doge]
：…Why are you telling me this?
: I think it’s just the time we spent together, all the meetings we need, we don’t have to tell each other anything specifically. Like we just kinda know.
But that was to all the other members too. I’m just glad that we can have the relationship with the whole team.
（“为什么你要告诉我这个？我觉得可能是因为我们在一起的时间，所有必须参与的会议，我们不需要特别告诉对方什么。就像我们彼此心照不宣。
以上这些适用于所有其他成员。我很高兴我们能与整个团队建立这样的关系。”）
https://t.cn/A6Te8qKQ
船級看不懂英文我來稍微聽一下，可能有點錯，但重點在後半句[doge]
：…Why are you telling me this?
: I think it’s just the time we spent together, all the meetings we need, we don’t have to tell each other anything specifically. Like we just kinda know.
But that was to all the other members too. I’m just glad that we can have the relationship with the whole team.
（“为什么你要告诉我这个？我觉得可能是因为我们在一起的时间，所有必须参与的会议，我们不需要特别告诉对方什么。就像我们彼此心照不宣。
以上这些适用于所有其他成员。我很高兴我们能与整个团队建立这样的关系。”）
https://t.cn/A6Te8qKQ
#思安成眷[超话]#Thank you for Anlu's May 10th date.I was expecting it to be a Versace event for the two of you. [太开心][太开心][太开心]
I'm looking forward to May 10th. [哇][哇]On that day, the two of you will be very happy and we will be very happy too.[给你小心心][给你小心心][好爱哦][好爱哦][赞][赞][爱你][爱你]
SiAn x AnLu xVersace .SiAn forever, Good moment forever[爱你][爱你]. Waiting to record SiAn's good moments on the 10th.[太开心][太开心][太开心][送花花][哇][哇]
I'm looking forward to May 10th. [哇][哇]On that day, the two of you will be very happy and we will be very happy too.[给你小心心][给你小心心][好爱哦][好爱哦][赞][赞][爱你][爱你]
SiAn x AnLu xVersace .SiAn forever, Good moment forever[爱你][爱你]. Waiting to record SiAn's good moments on the 10th.[太开心][太开心][太开心][送花花][哇][哇]
#看好书成为更好的自己##你当像鸟飞往你的山##读书感悟#
#原生家庭对子女的影响#
对我来说 有很长一段时间
I think there was a long time for me
我觉得因为我爱他们（家人）
I thought because I loved them
这意味着我可能做了错误的决定（远离他们）
that meant maybe I had made the wrong decision
或者因为我想念他们
or because I missed them
然后我会怀疑自己
and then I would second guess myself
因为我还想念他们
and say oh because I missed them
这一定意味着我犯了一个错误
it must mean that I made a mistake
我花了很长时间才弄明白
and it took me a really long time to figure out that
爱就是爱
yeah love is just love
我和我父亲之间发生的最后一件事情
one of the last things that happened between me and my father.
当我最后一次见他时
the last time I saw him
他走过来
he came over
从侧面非常尴尬地抱了我
and he gave me this really awkward side hug
他对我说
and he said to me
“我是爱你的你知道吗”
I love you you know that
我说。我知道”
and I said I do
“这一点从来都不是问题所在”
that has never been the issue
我一直明自我父亲是爱我的
and I always knew my father loved me
我当然知道他爱我
of course I knew he loved me
我知道父亲对我做的事情不是因为他不爱我
and I don't think my dad did anything that he did from a lack of love
但是爱会变成一种伤害
and I think we do love a real disservice
当我们用他来控制 压迫和改变他人时
when we make it about control and power and changing people
这不是真正的爱
and that's not what it is
如果你爱一个人 你会无条件的给予他们爱
you love people you give them that for free
然后你再决定
and then you decide
你是否要将他们看做自己生命的一部分
whether that's something that you want to have in your life
相反的方式就是
and the alternative is to say
我要先改变他们
well I'm going to change them
然后让他们融入我的生活
and then I'll have them in my life
这不是爱的定义
that's not what love is
更不是爱所赋予的控制欲
and it's not the power that it has
我依然爱我的家人
I would say with my own family I love them now
尽管我和家里一半的人疏远了
I'm estranged from half my family
我很爱他们 但我已经接受了一个事实
love them very much but I've accepted the fact
我需要他们做出改变 才能让他们进入我的生活
I need them to change to have them in my life
但至于他们是否会改变 我无法控制
and whether or not they change is something I have no control over
你要能够构想出不同的生活
to being able to conceive of a different thing
而不是局限于眼前已有的生活
than the life you have in front of you
有一段话我很喜欢
there's a scripture that I really like
信念是所望之事的实质
faith is the substance of things hope for
是未见之事的明证
the evidence of things not seen
让我很难摆脱家庭束缚
that made it hard for me to let go of my family
就是难以想象
was not being able to imagine
未来没有他们的生活
any kind of future life that didn't have them in it
我想每个人都是这样
and I think that's what everybody does
我们在不同的家庭中成长
we grew up in these families
学会了某种模式
and we learned certain patterns
我们觉得摆脱了束缚 改变了自己
and we think that we're all liberated and changed
但是一旦我们重新回到那种环境中
and then as soon as we get back in that situation
我们会重复原来的模式
we repeat those patterns
甚至更糟
or worse
家庭中经常存在很多问题
ery often we have dysfunctional family relationship
然后我们走向外面的世界
and then we go out into the world
发现有些人和自己一样重复着这种模式
and we find people who will repeat that pattern with
有些人永远无法摆脱
some people who will never leave it
我们会吸引和自己相同的人
we attract those people
所以我更喜欢一种信仰是
and l think I love this idea of faith
一种对更美好和不同世界的信仰
as a belief in a better world and a different world
感受不同的的人生体验
and a different life that you've experienced
体验尚未拥有过的爱
love that you may not have experienced yet
但要学会放手
but to let go of what is
试着看看事情会如何发展
and try to see what things could be
信仰和教育之间有一个奇妙的交集
I think of as a really amazing intersection between faith and education
因为这两者的结合
because it's those two things together
会让你看清生活的本质
it's the ability to see your life as it is
以及想象一种不同的生活
and imagine a different life
#原生家庭对子女的影响#
对我来说 有很长一段时间
I think there was a long time for me
我觉得因为我爱他们（家人）
I thought because I loved them
这意味着我可能做了错误的决定（远离他们）
that meant maybe I had made the wrong decision
或者因为我想念他们
or because I missed them
然后我会怀疑自己
and then I would second guess myself
因为我还想念他们
and say oh because I missed them
这一定意味着我犯了一个错误
it must mean that I made a mistake
我花了很长时间才弄明白
and it took me a really long time to figure out that
爱就是爱
yeah love is just love
我和我父亲之间发生的最后一件事情
one of the last things that happened between me and my father.
当我最后一次见他时
the last time I saw him
他走过来
he came over
从侧面非常尴尬地抱了我
and he gave me this really awkward side hug
他对我说
and he said to me
“我是爱你的你知道吗”
I love you you know that
我说。我知道”
and I said I do
“这一点从来都不是问题所在”
that has never been the issue
我一直明自我父亲是爱我的
and I always knew my father loved me
我当然知道他爱我
of course I knew he loved me
我知道父亲对我做的事情不是因为他不爱我
and I don't think my dad did anything that he did from a lack of love
但是爱会变成一种伤害
and I think we do love a real disservice
当我们用他来控制 压迫和改变他人时
when we make it about control and power and changing people
这不是真正的爱
and that's not what it is
如果你爱一个人 你会无条件的给予他们爱
you love people you give them that for free
然后你再决定
and then you decide
你是否要将他们看做自己生命的一部分
whether that's something that you want to have in your life
相反的方式就是
and the alternative is to say
我要先改变他们
well I'm going to change them
然后让他们融入我的生活
and then I'll have them in my life
这不是爱的定义
that's not what love is
更不是爱所赋予的控制欲
and it's not the power that it has
我依然爱我的家人
I would say with my own family I love them now
尽管我和家里一半的人疏远了
I'm estranged from half my family
我很爱他们 但我已经接受了一个事实
love them very much but I've accepted the fact
我需要他们做出改变 才能让他们进入我的生活
I need them to change to have them in my life
但至于他们是否会改变 我无法控制
and whether or not they change is something I have no control over
你要能够构想出不同的生活
to being able to conceive of a different thing
而不是局限于眼前已有的生活
than the life you have in front of you
有一段话我很喜欢
there's a scripture that I really like
信念是所望之事的实质
faith is the substance of things hope for
是未见之事的明证
the evidence of things not seen
让我很难摆脱家庭束缚
that made it hard for me to let go of my family
就是难以想象
was not being able to imagine
未来没有他们的生活
any kind of future life that didn't have them in it
我想每个人都是这样
and I think that's what everybody does
我们在不同的家庭中成长
we grew up in these families
学会了某种模式
and we learned certain patterns
我们觉得摆脱了束缚 改变了自己
and we think that we're all liberated and changed
但是一旦我们重新回到那种环境中
and then as soon as we get back in that situation
我们会重复原来的模式
we repeat those patterns
甚至更糟
or worse
家庭中经常存在很多问题
ery often we have dysfunctional family relationship
然后我们走向外面的世界
and then we go out into the world
发现有些人和自己一样重复着这种模式
and we find people who will repeat that pattern with
有些人永远无法摆脱
some people who will never leave it
我们会吸引和自己相同的人
we attract those people
所以我更喜欢一种信仰是
and l think I love this idea of faith
一种对更美好和不同世界的信仰
as a belief in a better world and a different world
感受不同的的人生体验
and a different life that you've experienced
体验尚未拥有过的爱
love that you may not have experienced yet
但要学会放手
but to let go of what is
试着看看事情会如何发展
and try to see what things could be
信仰和教育之间有一个奇妙的交集
I think of as a really amazing intersection between faith and education
因为这两者的结合
because it's those two things together
会让你看清生活的本质
it's the ability to see your life as it is
以及想象一种不同的生活
and imagine a different life
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