人越长大,便会逐渐对身边的人越来越淡然。很多人出现了，又消失了，犹如坐看云起云落，实在是没什么可解释说明。朋友有离有合，爱人此起彼伏；很多感情目的不纯，去向不明,对待不善；路再长也会有终点，夜再长也会有尽头，不管雨下得有多大，总会有停止的时候。

The more people grow up, they will gradually become more indifferent to the people around them. Many people appear and disappear, as if sitting watching the clouds rise and fall, there is really nothing to explain. Friends have separation, love one after another; Many feelings are not pure in purpose, unclear in direction, and poorly treated; No matter how long the road is, there will be an end. No matter how much it rains, there will always be a time to stop.

“ 愛是一種超越自我，向對方延伸的過程 ”

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溫柔和關注的英文都源於拉丁語動詞 tendere，意思是 “伸展” “ 延伸 ”，就像我們伸向另一個人時所做的那樣，承認可能性的相互作用，而不是抓住一個無生命的物體。
Both tenderness and attention share a root in the Latin verb tendere, meaning to stretch, extend, as we do when reaching toward another, acknowledging possible reciprocity rather than grasping for an inanimate object.

Georgia O'Keffee b.1887

In his culture, trauma is bound to recur in memories. Old places are bound to be revisited. People one has met are bound to be encountered again in dreams. As if it were an obligatory mental disorder. Trauma is not to be forgotten, not to be ignored, not to be covered over. Human beings are disposable. The perception of pain diminishes after an injury. Pain relief is the way to recover, healing is not. It is hard to imagine people here treating their spirits in the exact opposite way to the way they treat their bodies. Bodies, on the other hand, need to be cared for, and furthermore, life needs to be cared for. The secular concept of life means keeping breathing and pretend to live. No place for spirituality.

Feb 2023