well, these people, they aren't perfect, but they're not trying to be. No they're messy and complicated because life is messy and complicated.They were forged out of passion and madness, and sometimes just a holy desire to make something ugly and uncomfortable and haunting and brilliant and thrilling.And that's beautiful.At least to me.

Having the basics—a good bed to sleep in, good relationships, good food, and good sex—is most important, and those things don’t get much better when you have a lot of money or much worse when you have less.
And the people one meets at the top aren’t necessarily more special than those one meets at the bottom or in between.
阶级的改变可能真的不只是钱, having moderate amount more也许要比having a lot more幸福感更高。

Every experience you have with someone else is like a drop of water falling into a pool.As your experiences with that person grow,the drops accumulate and the pool deepens.Positive interactions are clean drops of water and negative interactions are red drops of water.But they aren’t equal.That is,a number of clear drops can dilute one red drop,and the number differs for different people.You can wash away negative interactions by flooding the pool with positive interactions until the red drops fade,but the deeper the red ,the more work you have to do to cleanse the pool.I have found that sometimes the pool color never clears ; when that happens,it’s time to stop interacting with that particular person.