【Teach教】转:
家庭教育的核心问题,是帮孩子发展出健康的自我。孩子的自信、乐观、抗挫等良好的品质,都从这个自我生长出来。自我像一颗洋葱,层层封装发展。
1 洋葱的芯,是依恋。
妈妈迅速、恰当地回应需求,婴儿就会形成积极的心理结构:妈妈是值得依赖的,其他人也值得信任;妈妈爱我,我很可爱,值得被爱。
安全型依恋的孩子,在妈妈的鼓励下主动探索、克服压力,积极迎接挑战。试错越多,能力越好,也更愿意去试。
2 再往外一层,是事上的自主和胜任。
自我不能凭空产生,而是向外抓取对象,理解了世界、做成了事情、掌控了环境,就有了良好的自我评价。把事情做成,这是稳固的支点。
孩子自主探索周围的环境,理解日常经验的意义。知道日月云雨、山川河流、飞禽走兽的运行法则,掌握与三姑六婆、老师朋友的社交规则。自己穿衣、吃饭、扫地、坐车,遇到问题,自己先想办法,自己去做决定。做得越来越好了,高自尊就出现了。
3 更外一层,是应对失败和挫折。
同学间的比较、学业的暂时挫败,都是不可避免的,「每次失败都是成长,我要继续努力,越来越好」。
有成长型思维模式的孩子,他们的目标是获得知识,不是一头钻进书里、不动脑子地死记硬背,而是主动寻找串联知识点的内在规律,直到弄明白来龙去脉。
4 青春期孩子的自尊,需要多维标签。
大人有意识地给孩子发展丰富的标签,「英语口语好」、「羽毛球好」、「人缘好」、「热于助人」等等,削减单一标签的影响力。 因为,再厉害的「学霸」,也会考砸,这个时候,其他标签就可以对冲掉「学霸」的压力了,像一张大网将人兜住。用一个标签支撑起来的自我,受到打击容易垮掉。用多维标签撑起自我,会特别顽强,更容易渡过「青春期之劫」。
家庭教育的核心问题,是帮孩子发展出健康的自我。孩子的自信、乐观、抗挫等良好的品质,都从这个自我生长出来。自我像一颗洋葱,层层封装发展。
1 洋葱的芯,是依恋。
妈妈迅速、恰当地回应需求,婴儿就会形成积极的心理结构:妈妈是值得依赖的,其他人也值得信任;妈妈爱我,我很可爱,值得被爱。
安全型依恋的孩子,在妈妈的鼓励下主动探索、克服压力,积极迎接挑战。试错越多,能力越好,也更愿意去试。
2 再往外一层,是事上的自主和胜任。
自我不能凭空产生,而是向外抓取对象,理解了世界、做成了事情、掌控了环境,就有了良好的自我评价。把事情做成,这是稳固的支点。
孩子自主探索周围的环境,理解日常经验的意义。知道日月云雨、山川河流、飞禽走兽的运行法则,掌握与三姑六婆、老师朋友的社交规则。自己穿衣、吃饭、扫地、坐车,遇到问题,自己先想办法,自己去做决定。做得越来越好了,高自尊就出现了。
3 更外一层,是应对失败和挫折。
同学间的比较、学业的暂时挫败,都是不可避免的,「每次失败都是成长,我要继续努力,越来越好」。
有成长型思维模式的孩子,他们的目标是获得知识,不是一头钻进书里、不动脑子地死记硬背,而是主动寻找串联知识点的内在规律,直到弄明白来龙去脉。
4 青春期孩子的自尊,需要多维标签。
大人有意识地给孩子发展丰富的标签,「英语口语好」、「羽毛球好」、「人缘好」、「热于助人」等等,削减单一标签的影响力。 因为,再厉害的「学霸」,也会考砸,这个时候,其他标签就可以对冲掉「学霸」的压力了,像一张大网将人兜住。用一个标签支撑起来的自我,受到打击容易垮掉。用多维标签撑起自我,会特别顽强,更容易渡过「青春期之劫」。
【雪绒题图诗: 祈祷时 我手里...】
“In the prison of his days
Teach the free man how to praise.”
-- W. H. Auden:In Memory of W. B. Yeats
独自行走的时候
我喜欢哼歌或自言自语
让身体里面的你
像小鸟 从静止的树上
一跃而起
看到一棵美丽的植物
我会停下来做深呼吸
以我和它们
都能理解的简易方式
交换气息 相互致意
… …
(5/21/2020-5/24/2022)
“In the prison of his days
Teach the free man how to praise.”
-- W. H. Auden:In Memory of W. B. Yeats
独自行走的时候
我喜欢哼歌或自言自语
让身体里面的你
像小鸟 从静止的树上
一跃而起
看到一棵美丽的植物
我会停下来做深呼吸
以我和它们
都能理解的简易方式
交换气息 相互致意
… …
(5/21/2020-5/24/2022)
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Day2 知识应用
11. When his team arrived on ______, there was a loud cheer(欢呼).( )
A. court B. floor C. place D. ground
12. I've learned from my uncle that dogs _______ people by their smell. ( )
A. improve B. recognize C. expect D. teach
13. Charlie thinks money will _____ all his problems. ( )
A. perform B. solve C. score D. force
14. The sudden lightning (闪电) ______ me so much that I dropped the cup. ( )
A. stopped B. pushed C. scared D. made
15. While I was walking alone down the street, three men came up to me
and asked me for _____ to the beach. ( )
A. contacts B. contents C. materials D. directions
16. After writing the letter, she put it in the ______ and sealed(封)it.( )
A. cover B. sheet C. envelope D. box
17. You should read more books to enlarge(扩大)your _____.( )
A. vocabulary B. memory C. brain D. score
18. Jack is among the brightest of his _____: he can speak several foreign languages and has won three national prizes.( )
A. honor B. ability C. generation D. edge
19. They were _____ to hear that their son had been arrested for taking drugs.( )
A.wandered B. ruined C. prepared D. shocked
20. Unfortunately, we now have plenty of _____ that many children do not do half as well on tests as they actually could if they tried. ( )
A. evidence B. blocks C. suitability D. instruction
11-15 ABBCD 16-20 CACDA
Day2 知识应用
11. When his team arrived on ______, there was a loud cheer(欢呼).( )
A. court B. floor C. place D. ground
12. I've learned from my uncle that dogs _______ people by their smell. ( )
A. improve B. recognize C. expect D. teach
13. Charlie thinks money will _____ all his problems. ( )
A. perform B. solve C. score D. force
14. The sudden lightning (闪电) ______ me so much that I dropped the cup. ( )
A. stopped B. pushed C. scared D. made
15. While I was walking alone down the street, three men came up to me
and asked me for _____ to the beach. ( )
A. contacts B. contents C. materials D. directions
16. After writing the letter, she put it in the ______ and sealed(封)it.( )
A. cover B. sheet C. envelope D. box
17. You should read more books to enlarge(扩大)your _____.( )
A. vocabulary B. memory C. brain D. score
18. Jack is among the brightest of his _____: he can speak several foreign languages and has won three national prizes.( )
A. honor B. ability C. generation D. edge
19. They were _____ to hear that their son had been arrested for taking drugs.( )
A.wandered B. ruined C. prepared D. shocked
20. Unfortunately, we now have plenty of _____ that many children do not do half as well on tests as they actually could if they tried. ( )
A. evidence B. blocks C. suitability D. instruction
11-15 ABBCD 16-20 CACDA
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